Love, Lust or Both?
After reading one of my friend’s notes about Love, Lust and Relationship, I got me thinking about the subjects of what is love, lust and what does it actually mean to have a relationship or to be in love. In a society where relationships and love are made out to be something that people live for, the different opinions about the subjects has made me more and more confused about the subject then I have ever felt in my life. I think sometimes in life it is good to find words to display my thoughts and feelings.
Lets be honest here me as your normal everyday guy, I struggle with the distinction between the two. Sometimes, I am blinded with lust that I fail to see the love or the good in people. Lust is defined as “is any intense desire or craving for self gratification”. Remember they there many different types of lust.
As There were for lust there are also many different meaning for what the word love means but I found one those when I was searching on the internet. Love can be defined as “an intense feeling of affection related to a sense of strong loyalty or profound oneness”. Well, I think this definition covers some of the major stuff of what love means but it also misses out on some of the other stuff that are essential to love and what love means.
For me love means, of course there needs to be attraction but there has passion. I know what you think when I say passion, I don’t mean that passion but something deeper and something that can not be seen with the human eye. Passion, for me means there has to be a not only physical, but also a mental and psychological desire to find out about that person- an inner hunger to learn and grow with that person. But remember it takes two people to make that work. It doesn’t matter how hard you can try but if the other person is not willing to, the relationship will not work and doesn’t have any merit. Well, I will be honest again; don’t misunderstand me for saying that being attracted to someone is not important. It is most definitely, the most important or if not one of the most important. For us guys, it gets our attention and makes us notice you from the others girls. But remember girls, if that guy is a true guy, he will want to get to know you first and find out about your personality. There a quote that I live with everyday that puts this into perspective “Good looks catch attention but personality catches that heart”. That quote is so true.
I know that people will be very critical of me and what I have to say but I know I have to say something about it. It is unfortunate that society say that all males are like that. That is simply not always true. Remember I am not downplaying it or trying to minimize that the truth of the matter but I am trying to make you notice the there are guys that try to be the best guy they can be. Unfortunately just like with everything else, people stereotype people and can put people into categories because of the action of a few people. People have to realize that people are not perfect and that people no matter how good they may assume or try to be, people will mess up from time to time. That is human nature and can never be changed no matter how hard we try. The important thing is for people to be less critical of others. Yes, I know that everyone is looking for the perfect someone or something that will never make mistakes or do anything wrong but the reality of the matter is that there is no one out there like that.
Just like the quote says “”We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” I think it is important that we change our perspective about what love is meant to be and think about that quote. Have you ever thought maybe that is what it means to find love and be in a relationship?
